Daniel makes stuff, and, in his spare time, writes about things like movies, kid culture, and geek stuff.
More Ways for Dads to Change the World

So as it ends up, that piece that Jeremy Adam Smith wrote that I linked to last week – the “Ways for Dads to Change the World” piece – was actually originally published last October. I know, I should really start paying attention to post dates.

All the better, though, because you can now peruse a whole slew of additional ways that dads can change the world – including fighting for paternity leave and playing video games with your kids. Jeremy’s up to number 12 of 25 right now.

Also interesting is Jeremy’s motivation for why he – a father – should write for Mothering magazine, which one commentator saw as possibly being inherently disenfranchising toward fathers.

Jeremy’s response to this:

The fact that I write for Mothering magazine should tell you that Mothering has made a deliberate decision to start including fathers in their pages, in pictures and articles. Not because they’re shifting the focus away from moms — it’s still very much a magazine about the special issues moms face — but because they want to depict parenting as a cooperative activity, a partnership. As the editor, Peggy O’Mara, has made clear, that’s come about because they’ve seen fathers change and become more cooperative, more like co-parents. Fathers need examples of caring fatherhood, but women need to see those examples, too. Father involvement is something all of us have to value. There is nothing in the magazine, however, that says you do not exist–quite the opposite is true. Mothering embraces fathering, don’t doubt it for a second.

Why did I choose Mothering as a venue for the series? Mainly because I think it’s world-changing for a mom magazine to welcome father’s voice. The context seemed right.

That, I think, is the real meaning behind the Daddy Shift. It isn’t about all or nothing, one way or the other, or fathers replacing mothers, or even doing the same things as traditionally mothers have done – but about both coming to an equally shared, coordinated way of parenting.

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Fifty Way for Dads to Change the World

A new series of columns for Mothering.com, by “The Daddy Shift” author Jeremy Adam Smith, about the “personal and political ways dads can make a difference in their communities.”

The first way: attend every prenatal class and doctor’s appointment. It’s something Jeremy fails miserably at, too. (Hey, nobody’s perfect.)

Feb 11, 2010 :: Tagged under: , , , :: #

'Mr. Mom's World'

A Salon article from a full ten years ago that shares the stories and stereotypes of Stay at Home Dads. Interesting to see what’s changed, and what’s stayed the same.

(Via Playground Dad.)

Feb 08, 2010 :: Tagged under: , , , , :: #

A Conversation with Cormac McCarthy

The Wall Street Journal has a conversation with author Cormac McCarthy and director John Hillcoat, preceding the release of the film adaptation of McCarthy’s 2006 novel “The Road” – a post-apocalyptic story of a father’s and son’s struggle for survival.

McCarthy shares some very poignant thoughts on writing, getting older in life, and fatherhood. I was especially moved by this passage in the conversation, offered in response to a question of whether he felt humans were innately good:

I don’t think goodness is something that you learn. If you’re left adrift in the world to learn goodness from it, you would be in trouble. But people tell me from time to time that my son John is just a wonderful kid. I tell people that he is so morally superior to me that I feel foolish correcting him about things, but I’ve got to do something—I’m his father. There’s not much you can do to try to make a child into something that he’s not. But whatever he is, you can sure destroy it. Just be mean and cruel and you can destroy the best person.

Nov 14, 2009 :: Tagged under: , , , , :: #

Cool 'Rules' for Unborn Sons

USA Today’s Whitney Matheson takes a look at the new book “Rules for My Unborn Son,” by Walker Lamond. Lamond first started the project a while back as a blog, 1001 Rules for My Unborn Son, and it’s been great to follow as it’s progressed. (I first wrote about it back when the blog got started.)

Matheson seems to take well to the new book version – and she also shares a great list of songs from Lamond that he says every boy should listen to.

Now with all this advice, playlists, and rules, I feel totally set. All I just need is an unborn kid to parent.

Nov 12, 2009 :: Tagged under: , , , , :: #

Jeremy Adam Smith Reviews "Manhood for Amateurs"

Jeremy Adam Smith, author of “The Daddy Shift” and blogger at Daddy Dialectic, reviews classic novelist Michael Chabon’s new book, “Manhood for Amateurs: The Pleasures and Regrets of a Husband, Father, and Son.”

In short, manhood collapsed because men stopped believing in it – and it shattered, as did the formerly communist countries, into a Babel of smaller nations: patriarchal conservatism, metrosexualism, hip-hop hedonism, stay-at-home fatherhood, a dozen gay subcultures and more.

Across this ruined landscape strides Pulitzer-Prize winning novelist Michael Chabon, a nebbish colossus, essays in hand. But in “Manhood for Amateurs,” Chabon is not concerned with why manhood fell. No utopian, he is not even explicitly interested in building some shiny new city on the ruins of the old.

He’d rather play the role of pith-helmeted archaeologist, excavating the sites of his own private Sahara in search of fragments – Lego bricks, Wacky Packages, baseball cards, Jack Kirby comic books, his father’s stethoscope – around which he can weave clever little stories.

Leave it to the rather brilliant Chabon to tackle a subject so personally and poignantly. Oh, and: the book also features the now-trademark-Chabon style of cover art. Just breathtaking.

Oct 12, 2009 :: Tagged under: , , , , :: #

1001 Rules for My Unborn Son

From Walker Lamond, a list of one-thousand-and-one rules about life for his yet-to-get-here son. (As he puts it, “Let’s get some things straight before I get old and uncool.”)

He’s got a book based on the idea coming out soon, too. (Inevitably it will be handed out at every baby shower on the planet. But you know what? That’s a good thing.)

A few of my favorite rules:

Rule #369. “You don’t get to pick your nickname.” (Just ask “Sluggy” Bogart.)

Rule #365. “Sadly, some things we love will never come back. The fedora is one of them.”

353. “See it on the big screen.”

I really like lists, but I never remember to make them. Perhaps I should start; any suggestions for random things to keep track of?

Mar 23, 2009 :: Tagged under: , , , , :: #